Self Love, Chakras + Embracing the Woo (and you!)

the ultimate self love guide

A few nights ago I was browsing Pinterest + saw the quote, “She understood that the hardest times in life to go through were when you were transitioning from one version of yourself to another,” from Sarah Addison Allen.

I have mixed emotions about it because:

a) I’m not going through a horrible time, in fact, I’m really happy.

and

b) I don’t really believe that people have different versions of themselves– I think everyone evolves, but that at the core, we’re all really who we’ve always been.

That being said, something about this quote totally resonated with me and the situation I’m going through. A few months ago (maybe with graduation coming up? maybe with finding myself wanting to take a step back from my crazy, out every weekend lifestyle I’ve become accustomed to? maybe with just growing-up in general?) I found myself asking, “Who do you feel like you really are? Who do you want to be? What makes you feel like you? How can you be the best version of yourself?” 

As a chronic over-thinker + self-improvement junkie (yep, it’s a thing + if it’s not, I’m coining it) I felt like that often– like although the situation I’m in maybe isn’t painful, per se, it’s confusing. Literally, right before, finding this quote too, I did something that just wasn’t like me, wasn’t anything I was (or am) proud of + quite frankly, something that left me feeling a bit scared + ashamed. Is this really who I am? 

Long story, short, I know the answer is that everyone makes mistakes + that if it was one of my best friends I’d tell them that of course they’re good people and that one situation doesn’t define them. But, if you know me, you know I have a horrible tendency to think the worst/be super hard on myself. I was going through a funk when my BFF (please get someone in your life who’s a constant supporter ASAP, plz) texted me a quick reminder that instead of hating myself (dramatic) I should show myself some grace.

So, I finally snapped some sense back into myself + went right back on my self-love/discovery journey.

Now we can get to the point:

Kayli circa early-2015 probably wouldn’t have been able to snap out of a dwell-on-the-bad-mems trip quite so quickly + I’ve gone through a lot of experiences, learned a lot of lessons, implemented tons of practices that have majorly transformed me into the person I am today. I know there’s so much more to be learned (isn’t that way exciting?! just me?) and that my journey is far from over– I don’t think there ever is a time that we suddenly become enlightened know-it-all human beings, ya’ll– but I’d like to share a few of the things that have changed my life (from small to huge) with you guys in hopes that I can help a sista out. After all, isn’t that what it’s all about?

Without further adieu, I’m giving you my ultimate self-love guide to help you live your best life. A PDF with loads of info is coming your way soon so you can always have it on hand (and when it does I’ll link it here!) and accompanying blog posts that go more in-depth with a few of these topics will appear within’ the coming weeks.

Enjoy + as always post any questions in the comments below!

Have you gone through any experiences that have transformed ya lately? What are some practices you’re implementing to live your best life? 

A Morning Routine

I’ve found that since incorporating a morning ritual into my daily routine I find myself having less stress and more productivity! A win-win, right?

Mine looks like:

  • Sitting-up in bed + immediately turning on a guided mediation of my choice.
  • Scribbling down a few things I’m grateful for.
  • Going on a 15 minute walk with Stabler.

That’s my no-bones ritual and I seriously love it. That being said, I’d love to incorporate a few other things into it like tarot cards + some morning journaling. This is one of the points I’ll be sure to do a longer blog post on with further suggestions + such once it gets a little more meat to it, stay-tuned!

Mantras

I like to choose a daily mantra and I make sure to repeat it to myself when I feel overwhelmed or might need a quick reminder during the day. I also repeat this mantra to myself a few times when I’m meditating each morning.

The best part? It can honestly be as easy as choosing an area you’d like to prosper or are struggling in + Googling mantras for that purpose each morning! For instance, if you’re overwhelmed with finances, Google, “Mantras for financial overwhelm” and bam– you’ve got ‘em! 

Journaling

I’d like to say I journal each day, but more realistically, I get around to it around once a week. This is another area I’d like to improve on + do more of because I find it so therapeutic. 

I have a journal where I write down monthly gratitudes, a journal where I recap events, a journal where I keep ideas, a 52 Week List journal and a Self Exploration journal + I love ‘em all!

Card Reading + Energy Healing, oh my!

I’m not gonna lie, this one sounded a bit woo-woo to me at first and it’s also an area that ended up making the most difference. I scheduled a one-on-one session with Jay Diamond after she happened to deliver some life changing news to me through a Periscope chat (it seriously left me in tears, you guys) and it was the best investment I’ve made in forever.

I’ll do a full blog post on this one, too, ASAP, but if you have questions that you want answered right meoooow, you can check out her site for loads of info, here. She’s the real deal, babes.

Crystals

Again, woo woo, right? But I recently have been doing a lot of research on this and truly believe they can make a difference in your life + meditative practices. Don’t believe in ‘em? Totally fine! Still pretty to ohh and ahh at, right?

Also a quick reminder: Self love/discovery/learning is about what works for you! Implement only what makes the most sense for you, but also…

Be open to things that seem outside of your comfort zone! You may be pleasantly surprised. 

A few crystals that I love:

Amethyst

Reduces stress + enhances your third-eye chakra.

Apophyllite

Helps with anxiety.

Clear Quartz

Helps connect you to your higher self // aids in self awareness.

Rose Quartz 

Enhances self love + reduces stress

Books

I’ll continue to update this/do an in-depth post soon because I’m a reading machine but a few that you have to check out right this very second, include:

The Soul Searcher’s Handbook: A Modern Girl’s Guide to the New Age World

This is the one that really changed things + made me understand so many hard to grasp concepts. Also took away apart of the woo factor for me + was put into terms that I feel like my girlfriends + I would get– loooooved it!

 

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear

 

The Happiness Project

 

Adventures For Your Soul

 

Light Is The New Black: A Guide to Answering Your Soul’s Callings and Working Your Light

 

Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration

 

Ask Your Guides: Connecting to Your Divine Support System

 

 

To Watch

 

MarissaLace

Her #YearOfYou series is da bomb

 

Katie Dalebout

 

Emma Mildon

 

Spirit Science

Helps me understand those pesky hard-to-grasp concepts so. darn. much.

 

Gala Daring TedxTalk

 

Aromatherapy

My Mom got me into aromatherapy last year + my love for it only keeps growing! The scents you surround yourself with can truly transform your mood (+ help with physical ailments!) and I highly recommend them.

To get started, I recommend this starter kit.

A few essential oil faves:

Lavender
Lemon
Peppermint
Thieves

 

Doing More of What You Love

Yep. Easy. I know this sounds so duh, Kayli *sigh*but honestly, embrace the word, “no” and make room for more of what you love. As someone with extreme FOMO (like the freaking worst, you guys!) this has been hard for me, but I think I’m doing a bit better.

Some things I love doing with my extra free-time:

  • Browsing book stores
  • Taking bubble baths
  • Grabbing a green juice with a girlfriend after a yoga class
  • Making big dinners and dancing to music in my kitchen
  • Picking-up one of my sisters + going for a late night drive
  • Attending a concert with friends
  • Having a girls night with bottles (plural, gang) of wine + laughing over bruschetta
  • Taking Stabler for long walks
  • Reading a good book with a cup of tea
  • Going out with my friends and dancing all night (of course, ending with a big slice of my fave white pizza)

One last reminder: It’s all about balance and loving what you do. The most important thing? Loving who you are, unconditionally.

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